Direction Is So Much More Important Than Speed – Many Are Going Nowhere Fast (Part 1 of 2)

Slow Down
Almost all of the modern world is inHurry a rush, constantly hurrying, however hardly any individuals have any idea exactly where they are going in their lives. To be at peace  with ourselves and take pleasure in life, we have to quit hurrying continuously.
Individuals dash to arrive at the next circumstance that has virtually no genuine meaning for them, or that they truly don’t even wish to participate in. Urgency is the  tempo of the twenty-first century; hurrying has turned into an ailment of really dangerous levels. Many of us rush a great deal, we ultimately arrive at the place where we simply can’t relax.
Life is too precious to rush through it. I find at times that a day has gone by in a blur; at the conclusion of it I know I was very busy all day yet cannot really remember enjoying much, if any, of it.
It is permissible to enjoy our morning coffee or tea without feeling we must hurry to get to the next thing. We can get dressed calmly without rushing. We can leave the house in a timely fashion, without frantically running out the door already behind schedule. Rushing is a bad habit, but we can break bad habits and form good ones to replace them.
The way we get a day started is important. Often how we start is how the entire day goes. If you allow the “hurry-up” spirit to grab you early in the day, everything within you gets into high gear, and you will never seem to slow down or really relax the rest of the day. Hurry creates pressure that in turn creates stress.
Stress is the root cause of many illnesses and is therefore something each one of us desperately needs to resolve. Pace is very important in life. Our pace not only affects us but others around us. People who are always in a rush are usually short-tempered and impatient. They certainly don’t minister peace.
In fine-dining restaurants, the hostess who seats people walks very slowly while leading customers to their tables. The waiters or waitresses don’t rush the table for orders; they give you plenty of time to think. I am sure this is because they want the customers to enjoy their experience, and they know that will not be possible if they are rushed.
Our pace of living affects the quality of our lives. When we eat too fast, we don’t properly digest our food; when we rush through life, we don’t properly digest it either. Life has been bestowed unto us as a gift, and what a pitiful shame to do nothing but rush through each day and never, as they say, “stop to smell the roses.” Each thing we do in life has a sweet fragrance, and we should learn to take it into ourselves and enjoy the aroma.

Rushing Begins in the Mind
Rushing begins in the mind, just asexecutive-in-a-hurry-late-for-his-appointment all actions do. “I have to hurry” is a thought pattern we should avoid. When other people say to us, “Hurry up!” we can learn to resist following their suggestion or demand. It unsettles us and makes us feel rushed when thoughts constantly fly through our minds, one following upon another (especially thoughts that go in many different directions).
Those of us who have a bad habit of rushing need to decide that we don’t have to do this. We can do only one thing at a time! When we hurry, we make more mistakes and often forget things that end up costing us more time than we would have used had we maintained a godly pace.
Did you know that you can think things on purpose? You can choose what you think about, and by doing so you help assure what your actions will be. Yes, you can purposefully think thoughts such as I don’t have to hurry. I have time to do whatever I need to do. Speaking such affirmations out loud is also helpful.
Positive statements help give direction for future actions. Get up in the morning, and as soon as you feel rushed, say, “I am glad I don’t have to hurry. I have all the time I need. I will do things today at a pace that enables me to enjoy each task.”
If we feel hurried, we usually say, “I am so sick and tired of hurrying all the time! That is all I ever do: hurry, hurry, hurry.” Statements like those may be facts describing the way things are, but circumstances don’t have to stay that way. I repeat, say what you want, not what you have. Peace of mind must precede peace in our lives.
Contemplating excessively about every little thing we need to carry out sets the wheels in motion for hurrying. We frequently come to feel bogged down whenever we visualize all the time to come will demand of us. This sort of thought process is known as anxiety. Once we invest the present moment trying to sort out the next day, when we attempt to live tomorrow now, even though simply in our heads, we feel burdened and start to forfeit tranquility.
We will never enjoy the peaceful and fruitful lives unless we learn to think right. Food for thought: Where the mind goes, the man follows.

Learn to Live with Margin or Slack
Living without margin is one of the main reasons we feel we need to hurry. To live with margin means to leave room on either side of planned events or appointments to take care of unexpected things that come up. We seem to plan our days in an unrealistic way, as if everything will go exactly according to our plans and desires, which it never does. One unplanned phone call or traffic jam can change our entire timetable. One set of misplaced car keys can upset a whole day’s scheduling.
Having breathing room between planned events of the day is healthy, and it is actually mandatory if one is intending to enjoy his or her life.
One of the worst things a person can become is a busy man or woman. I have noticed upon meeting people and asking how they are that most respond, “Busy,” and many say, “Tired.” Surely life is meant to be more. If our testimony of life is “I’m busy and tired,” that is very sad indeed.
Margin is another word for wisdom. It makes absolutely no sense to live without it, and nothing truly succeeds without it. We know from experience that we always encounter things we did not plan for, so why not plan for the unplanned, which is what margin is?

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Self Confidence Is No Coincidence – It Needs Work

Developing your self-confidence doesn’t come about immediately, it’s morewhich-person-are-you like a chip-by-chip task that begins with what you do daily. Habits have a way of replicating themselves, so get into beneficial routines and you’ll be on your way a flying start.

Begin by Being Vigilant and Prepared for Action on a Daily Basis

You have 168 hours per week, and you’re inclined to consume roughly a third of those hours sleeping. It’s your option regarding how you create the quality of the outstanding two-thirds of each day. How does your day pan out when you get up late and head out of the door in a manic rush? Just notice, though, what happens when you have a calm and relaxed start to the day, when you have got out of bed at a reasonable hour and then take things in your stride. Self-assured individuals embrace their lives in a great way that they do not wish to squander even one minute of it. Launch your day with a positive mindset, that is, primed and ready to go through the day responsively (as opposed to re-actively) with a conscious focus on your thoughts .

Focus Your Mind on the Here and Now

Are you aware that it takes up to 15 minutes to get your attentiveness back following a telephone call. Just a couple of distractions and your time drifts haphazardly away. Any type of routine that shows you how to prevent your thoughts from drifting and to get to the ‘here and now’ will pay off handsomely. Focusing on your breath for just three minutes before the start of any task will help in quietening the busy and logical part of your mind by getting you centered and creative.

Monitor Your Moods and Emotions

Emotions play a significant role in how an individual perceives the things that are happening around him/her. And they are the product of what goes through a person’s head at that particular time. Emotionally intelligent individuals have an acute level of sensitivity – they stay on track with how they’re feeling and the impact they have on other individuals. Constantly practice introspection throughout the course of the day as well as become conscious of what’s transpiring within you. What are the revealing indicators in your body? Is it revealed on your face or conveyed by the tone of your voice or your conduct? By monitoring your emotions, you have an indication of where you are at in the event you require to fine-tune the direction.

Embrace Moments of Solitudeconfidence cycle

How are you with the sound of silence? If you’re accustomed to dashing about and being with people continuously, then spending ten minutes privately by yourself may be an illuminating experience. Turn off all possible distractions of the modern world while you’re at this. Permit yourself to fantasize while you are unencumbered with inner chit chat as well as distractions. Simply clear out your mind, feel the space, and allow the creativity to unfold.

Create an Abundance Mindset

Newton’s Third Law of Physics states simply that “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction”. Your actions and thoughts have a built-in ‘boomerang effect’ and whatever you do or think will have an impact on you in one way or another on various dimensions such as time, money, energy and love. Give $10.00 unconditionally to a person in need of food, perhaps, and see that amount multiply and come back to you through some other channel. It’s the Law of Attraction in action. Living a life of generosity will create a mental framework that will seek and find for you people who are of a similar mindset as well as put you in situations where abundance is prevalent.

Today in Retrospection and Tomorrow in Planning

After dinner each day, retrospect on the day’s happenings and experiences. One good way to analyse this is to focus on the 80/20 principle – did 80 percent of the things planned get done within 20 percent of the time or effort? As you continue with the reflection and planning process daily, you will notice the power of 80/20 principle at play. This should lead you to conclude that it is not important to check off everything on the list, but focus on getting the top 80 percent of things to do within 20 percent of the time soccer-tiger-confidenceor effort. This will help you to stay focused on the critical things knowing that you’re most likely to get them completed.

Get Into Bed with Your Life’s Destiny

An individual’s life destiny is essentially based on his/her values. It’s tough to come up with your life’s destiny or purpose when first asked to do so, but with some quiet consideration based on one’s values, most people say that they would like to make a positive impact on the circle of control in their lives. And this ‘positive impact’ criteria can be broken down into many dimensions depending on one’s standing and capabilities in life. Some would like to provide free services as an eye-surgeon on a monthly basis, others would like to start a charitable organization based on the furthering of education for the poor in society, while having a food kitchen once a week might be someone else’s forte. Being of service in the community you live in, giving of yourself for the betterment of that circle, will help you find the confidence inherent in you through your life’s purpose. As you recognize that you’re in charge of your personal quest, you will discover more insight and independence, and therefore self-assurance to become yourself and accomplish what is best for you. Whilst you actively engage with each day, retain the bigger perspective of your life and ensure that the task at hand currently complements effectively with your life’s purpose. With this in mind, your focus should then be on confidently conducting yourself in any situation knowing that the foundations your actions are built upon are true to your inner values.

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